"ImmoralMinority" (araimondo)
12/11/2016 at 09:44 • Filed to: None
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"ImmoralMinority" (araimondo)
12/11/2016 at 09:44 • Filed to: None | 0
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My new immobilizer and key set for the Vespa arrived.
My friend wants to do this repair for me - long story short, he could use a little cash. But his situation is such that I am not sure he can get to it, and I’m thinking of just going to the dealer. I don’t have the guts to try to drill the locks myself.
He is quite skilled, and really knows his way around old Toyotas. He was supposed to do some work on the Sunchaser “as soon as he makes room in the garage.”
I am not mad at all because I know he has a lot going on that is more important than my dumb vehicles. But the Sunchaser may end up done before his life settles down, and the Vespa may be going to the dealer. I’d rather pay a friend, but I need the work done. But I am feeling guilty about it.
What do you think?
Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
> ImmoralMinority
12/11/2016 at 09:59 |
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Just explain to the friend you need it done now and youll think of him next time you need work done.
bob and john
> ImmoralMinority
12/11/2016 at 09:59 |
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if you can swing it, take the Vespa to the dealer, and take your friend out to dinner. You get the job done, you get to be sorry over taking it there, and you give him something for his time and he can get get away from w/e is going on in his life for an hour or so.
Manwich - now Keto-Friendly
> ImmoralMinority
12/11/2016 at 10:18 |
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I would say “are you available to get this done by X date? I really want to get this done. If you can’t get to it by then, don’t worry about it. I’ll get it done at the dealer. I just wanted to offer the job to you first.”
If you frame it that way, getting it done by X date is not negotable. The only thing that’s negotable is whether he chooses to make the time and do the work for you.
If he can’t make the time, that’s okay... but it’s his choice... it’s on him.
That way, nobody should get upset. Either way, you get it done by a certain time and he gets the first opportunity to do the work... if he chooses.
My bird IS the word
> ImmoralMinority
12/11/2016 at 10:50 |
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Its great that you are trying to help a friend, but considering it isn’t really helping him if he already doesn’t have the time you should get someone else to do it.
Also never “pay” for something from friends. I have given my friends some cash for helping me before, but you begin to violate sociological rules of relationships (friends and business don’t mix) and that is how you lose friends. Whether or not he is skilled is irrelevant, something can always go wrong and unlike some stranger you still have to interact with him in the future.
Leon711
> ImmoralMinority
12/11/2016 at 11:25 |
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Offer it to him first with a date you want it done by, if he can do it, great, if not tell him you’ll call him next time.
I enjoy hearing about the Vespa, takes me back to my Teenage years.
Manny05x
> ImmoralMinority
12/11/2016 at 15:38 |
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Buy him beer and ask if you can help him with anything and let him know ypu want to take it to the dealer.